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"You can explore the universe looking for somebody who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and you will not find that person anywhere."

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No Relationship - Too Choosy


You are looking for a partner with a specific personality and set of qualities.

You often find many of these qualities, but one or two critical ones are missing.

You are tempted to give up your search, as you are beginning to think that you will never meet your ideal partner.


If you are very choosy about a partner and never seem to find what you are looking for, it is worth asking yourself, "do I have a fear of being in a relationship (driven by a fear of intimacy). Despite your conscious desire for a relationship, you may have a subconscious desire to remain single and independent.

A relationship has the potential to raise insecurities and painful emotions that you have buried in the past. It is your subconscious fear of raising these old feelings that causes you to be very specific in your requirements for a partner - so high in fact that they do not exist!
This saves you from having to risk being in a relationship that might trigger your pain.

 

Here are three things you could do to invite a partner into your life:

1. You might have an idea of who you want to share your life with, but ask yourself if this is preventing you from being open to a relationship.

2. Rather then being very specific about the type of person you want, write down the general qualities on a 'wish list'. It might include things like, they are emotionally open, have a sense of humour, are attractive, don't smoke etc.

3. Visualise being in a relationship with the person with the qualities in 2. as vividly as you can. Really focus on the love you will give them and receive from them - feel your mutual joy. Now let go of the need to have this person and get on with your life. Trust that the person will appear when you are both ready.

Also look at the No Partner section.

 

 

Need More Help?....

My book Bringing Back The Love will help you understand why you might be finding it difficult to meet a partner or start a relationship. It also explains how to attract a loving partner into your life.

 

 

 

 



 

 
 


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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