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domestic violence and aggressive behaviour
...helping you find true love and happiness through your relationships




"Anger, aggression and violence are highly disguised and ineffective crys for help"






Aggression &
Domestic Violence

Your partner can be aggressive and prone to inflicting domestic violence.

When you are angry you become aggressive or violent.

You can feel frightened in your relationship, but still have great love for your partner and want to help them.

Important: If you are suffering domestic violence, for your own safety, it is essential that you seek help and support. Seeking help will be the kindest thing you can do for your partner, as the cycle of violence must be broken before healing can take place. Useful websites if you need support


Aggression and violence comes out of an inability to cope with the emotions that are triggered by the intimacy of relationships. Such behaviour is an indication that the perpetrator has hidden away severe levels of emotional trauma and has low self-esteem. While these issues remain under control for some of the time, they erupt at times of stress and relationship difficulties. Although unacceptable, this behaviour is in fact a call for help - a call for love.

Partners who are suffering in such situations often have conflicting feelings - they obviously do not like the aggression, but they often return to their partner - unfortunately the cycle can repeat itself because both the partners have become co-dependent. In these situations, both partners are playing out their needs and insecurities, albeit in very different ways.


Here are three things you can do if your partner is aggressive or violent:

1. Seek help and support if you feel in any danger - see above

2. Understand that your partner's behaviour (whilst unacceptable) is a consequence of a severely damaged self-esteem. They have lost much of their natural connection to love. You can help them by beginning to reawaken this in them.

3. By far the best way to do this is to find your own self love so you can remind your partner of their's. You will need to find out why you and your partner turned away from a state of self-love and then heal the negative self-beliefs that damage your self-esteem. My website and books describe this process in detail.


Need More Help?....
My book Bringing Back The Love explains how people become aggressive and violent when they slip away from their natural state of love. This will help you understand your partner if they are aggressive and show you how to help them discover self-love.


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