Here are three ways to bring the arguments and rows to an end in your relationship:
1. Become aware that you are in an argument and make a conscious decision to stop arguing. Say nothing that will inflame the situation. Breathe deeply and calm yourself down.
2. Think about what need is not being met for you - it will be the same need that is not being met for your partner. Now comes the challenging leadership piece - start fulfilling this need for your partner. For example, If you feel misunderstood, seek to understand your partner by asking them what they are thinking and feeling.
3. Make it clear to your partner that you want to help them and your relationship by ending the arguments and rows, and that you are keen to find out what is causing them. Your willingness to see their side of things is usually enough to take the energy out of the fight and to re-open their heart. They will then start meeting your needs better.