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How to Become Irresistible to your Partner

In this article I want to look at ways that you can become so attractive to your partner that you become irresistible! I don’t mean how you can become more physically attractive, but how you can become more emotionally attractive. Although it is important to have respect for ourselves, look after our health and look our best, it is what we project energetically to our partners, that determines how much they want to be with us.

All of us are drawn towards people who are positive, open-hearted and full of love. Such people will have high self-esteem – in other words they love themselves. This isn’t in some narcissistic way, but in the way that they accept themselves for who they are, and do not judge themselves.

Interestingly, our natural state is one of love and connection to others, and we become attractive when we become authentic and embrace this. The problem is that most of us erect barriers to self-love and choose instead to attack ourselves. Sometimes our self-attack becomes so extreme that we cannot handle it anymore and start to project it out onto the people around us. Obviously, our negative behaviour then makes us very unattractive!

Self-attack always comes from feelings of guilt, low self-worth and a belief that we have failed significant people in our life. It can also be traced back to an avoidance of our gifts and spiritual connections. To build your self-esteem you will need to heal these negative aspects of your personality. You will also need to open your heart again if you have been defending emotional pain that was caused by the heartbreaks that you have experienced in your life. My website and books give many tips and ideas about how you can go about this.

If you build your self-esteem and return to your true state of being, your natural loving personality will automatically shine out. In fact, when you fell in love with your partner this is exactly what happened, and notice how much you were attracted to each other at that time. Remember that you do not need to work to become a nice, successful, rich, beautiful or powerful person to become attractive. All you have to do is get out of your own way and become real. That is what attracted your partner to you in the first place. Some of your shared needs might have caused you to hide your true self but it is still in there. Your partner fell in love with you just the way you are, so isn’t it time to find your way back to your authenticity? When you do that you will become irresistible.

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