Here are three ways to move forward in a healing direction if you partner has had an affair and you would like to rebuild your relationship.
1. First appreciate that there is nothing wrong with you. Your partner's affair is coming from their insecurity. They are looking for love because they have lost their ability to feel self-love. The have also forgotten how much they love you.
2. Talk sensitively with your partner about how you feel about what they have done, without blaming them. Seek to understand why they had the affair - what was missing for them - what were they feeling? How does this relate to their insecurities - negative self-beliefs that they have probably had most of their lives?
3. Do your best to forgive your partner and offer them your love and understanding. If you can open your heart compassionately, your partner's heart will also open and you will rebond in love. This is a courageous act of leadership, but it will work if you can set aside your hurt.
If your relationship has ended, and there is no chance of reconciliation, have a look at the article about Letting Go