Here are three ways to loosen the hold that depression has on you (or your partner).
1. Depression becomes a viscous circle - being depressed makes you more depressed, so somehow the cycle must be broken. Therefore think about one thing that makes you more happy than anything else in your life. For instance, let's say it is gardening. Make it a priority to go out and garden everyday - even for a few minutes.
2. Notice how you feel good when you do the things you love. As you experience those feelings, allow them to grow within you and know that this is your true state of being.
3. Reconnect with the people around you. Start giving to them in some way - not materially, but emotionally. What are their fears and needs? Give them what they need and watch how good this makes them feel - and how good you feel in giving to them. This is the best thing you can do if you ever feel down or depressed.
All these actions will help you feel more positive about yourself because they help you to open your heart. If you continue to suffer depression, do visit your doctor or seek other support, or talk about it to a friend - do not be tempted to suffer in silence.