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feeling unattractive
...helping you find true love and happiness through your relationships




"Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it."








Feeling Unattractive

You worry that you do not appear attractive to your partner, or a potential partner.

You are conscious about your looks and spend a lot of your time trying to ensure that you look attractive.

You feel great pressure by society to look attractive.


It is only natural to want to look your best if you are trying to find a partner, or are already in a relationship - this shows self-respect and a pride in your appearance. The problem comes when this focus becomes obsessive and self-conscious. You may then become insecure about your 'looks' and begin to believe you are unattractive.

Such a preoccupation with physical appearance may come from a lack of self-esteem. You could end up believing that people will only love you for your looks, rather than your personality and other gifts.


Here are three things you can do to make you feel more attractive:

1. Recognise who you really are - which is somebody who is gifted and full of love - both for themselves and other people. Accept that you are perfect just the way you are.

2. Identify any areas of low self-esteem - the things you don't like about yourself (other than looks). Heal the insecurities that underlie these negative self-beliefs.

3. Look into a mirror and ignore any negative feelings you have about yourself. Keep looking until you see the 'real you'. Notice how beautiful you are. Grow this feeling of esteem and hold on to this feeling as you go about your daily business.


Need More Help?....

My book Bringing Back The Love will help you understand how self-image relates to self-esteem and how this has a big impact on your relationships. In the book I show you how to feel better about yourself and use these to improve your relationship.







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