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"I think its time I let you go... and that is hard to do because part of me will be in love with you for the rest of my life"Anon.
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Your partner has broken your heart, most likely by ending the relationship, leaving you, or having an affair.
Your life has lost its meaning - you feel devastated and can't imagine how you can be happy again without the person you love. You have lost somebody through death, and the sadness and grief is consuming you. |
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There are very few people who have not experienced a heartbreak of some kind in their life. Relationships are critical to our well-being and we invest huge amounts of emotional energy in them. If we are betrayed, somebody leaves us, or we are bereaved, we can lose the very thing that made our life worth living. These feelings of loss become damaging when we have over-relied on another person to bring us happiness. We all have emotional needs and can easily become dependent on another person to fulfil them. Our outward search for happiness and meaning readily focuses on a partner or sometimes a child or parent. This can provide us a degree of contentment, but it leaves us unable to cope if that person leaves. It is as if a part of us has been taken away. |
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Here are three things you can do to recover from a heartbreak and use it as a springboard to a happier life in the future: 1. Recognise that you had become dependent on your partner or the person you have lost. This was hiding your gift for self-love and bonding. Determine to reveal these gifts from now on. 2. Appreciate and mentally thank the person you have lost for all the wonderful things they brought to you in the relationship. Send them love and bless them in their new life, or if they have died, send them love in the way that you feel is appropriate to your beliefs. 3. Let go of any disappointment, resentment or guilt that may remain from the relationship that has caused the heartbreak. This third step is essential to allow you to let go of the sadness and pain, and move on with your life. Also read my article - How to heal a broken heart |
The three actions above will help you to recover from a heartbreak, but I recognise that they are hard to put into practive when you are in so much pain. If you need more help you might like to read my book as it describes the origins of heartbreaks in much more detail.
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