Incompatible Partners

Possible Issues

- You are attracted to people who have a different personality from you and this causes problems

- You fall in love with people who are incompatible with you and experience great pain when things go wrong.

The Cause

Sometimes we are attracted to people because they represent the part of us that we have denied or do not believe we could ever be. If we tend to be nervous and withdrawn we may be attracted to a wilder, devil may care personality.

If we choose an incompatible partner, their behaviour often becomes unacceptable to us because they are harbouring the same insecurities and fears as us - its just that they have chosen to act them out in ways that are very different.

Another more subtle and surprising reason for choosing an incompatible partner is that it will delay the moment when we will find our true partner. We subconsciously delay because we are frightened of the emotional upheaval that would be required to build such a partnership.

The Way Through

If you seem to choose or fall in love with people who are incompatible, then ask yourself what it is that attracts you to them. You probably feel deficient in their positive characteristics. To recognise such a characteristic (and be attracted to it) you must also have it. Once you accept this in your heart, you will be able to bring a person into your life who is better matched to your personality and values and reveal your hidden gifts.

If you suspect that your less than successful dating record is related to a fear about working on your deeper emotional issues, then begin to identify and understand where these fears originated. By healing these fears you will naturally bring a suitable person into your life.

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© P.J.Granger 2007

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