Possible Issues

- You or your partner feel jealous about another person and this damages your relationship

- Envy can consume you to the extent that you cannot get on with your own life

- You find yourself negatively comparing your lifestyle with your friends and acquaintances

The Cause

Jealousy and envy are very destructive emotions - they come from our sense of inadequacy. We feel that we do not have the qualities, skills or abilities to have what other people have. They seem more lucky than us and always fall on their feet. This makes us dislike and judge them.

In a romantic relationship we may feel great jealousy if another person shows interest in our partner. We may fear they will take our partner away and we will be abandoned. This indicates that we have low self-confidence and we believe that we will not be sufficiently attractive to satisfy our partner.

The Way Through

First of all, begin to notice the times when you are feeling jealous or envious. Identify the qualities in which you feel deficient or the things you feel that the other perosn has that you lack.Paradoxical as it may seem, it is these qualities that you have denied in yourself - these are your natural gifts. You have denied them because of you may have felt that you misused them in the past or failed to use them in some critical situation, usually with parents or siblings in early life. This is the source of feelings of inadequacy. Now you keep seeing these qualities in others as a painful reminder that you have ignored your own gifts.

With this knowledge you can begin to reveal these gifts and the successes that come from them. Start giving the very qualities that you envy in other people. Feelings of jealousy and envy will immediately dissipate. As your self-worth grows your creativity will also grow and you will no longer feel the need to compare - you will know that you can have exactly what you wish in life.

In your relationship the increased self-esteem and the giving of your natural gifts will make you more attractive to your partner and they will not want to stray. You will therefore feel secure and wealthy, in the broadest sense of the word.

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All advice in this website is given in good faith and no responsibility can be accepted by the website owners for issues or problems that occur as a consequence of using the website content. If you have any concerns about your psychological health you are advised to contact a doctor other suitably qualified medical/psychiatric practioner.

© P.J.Granger 2007

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