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"The best way to find
out if you can trust
somebody is to
trust them "
Ernest Hemingway
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Lack of Trust |
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Your partner flirts with, or gives undue attention to other people.
Your partner has had one or more affairs in the past and you find it hard to trust them again. Your partner is not open with you and can be secretive and/or dishonest about where they are and what they are doing. You have checked (or been tempted to check) your partner's mobile phone or emails for incriminating messages. |
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Trust disappears in a relationship when the feelings of love and connection are lost. Although it may seem that the love you once had as gone forever, this is not the case.
What has happened is that a barrier has appeared between you and your partner and love is no longer being given and received freely. If your partner is acting in an untrustworthy way, it means that they do not believe the love that you once had can be rekindled, and they therefore start searching outside the relationship. If you have been betrayed or hurt in the past it is very hard to trust your partner today because you will be afraid of getting hurt again.
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Here are three ways to start re-building trust in your relationship: 1. Remember how much you trusted your partner at the beginning of your relationship - this was because both of your hearts were open at that time. You can return to that level of trust if you can rediscover the love that brought you together in the first place. 2. If you can, talk to your partner about your lack of trust and how this is making you feel. Do not blame them, but find out what is missing for them in the relationship. Make it clear you want to work with them to rebuild the trust and the relationship. 3. Find ways of meeting each other's needs so you can re-bond in love. Start trusting your partner today because this is an act of leadership and will inspire you both. |
Rebuilding trust after it has been broken is not easy. If you are struggling to forgive your partner do read my book as it describes in detail why partners become dishonest and how to forgive somebody who has hurt or betrayed you.
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