Possible Issues

- You just don't trust your partner anymore.

- The lack of trust is destroying your peace of mind and relationship.

The Cause

Trust is an essential element of any relationship and when it is missing, anxiety and suspicion will rapidly take over.

We stop trusting somebody when we have stopped communicating and connecting with them. We no longer know what they are thinking or feeling. The resulting withdrawal makes it much more likely that a partner will stray to find the love and affection that is missing in the relationship.

In truth, we do not trust our partner when we do not trust ourself in the relationship. We may not have full trust in our ability to heal our emotional pain or deal with our partner's pain. At some point in our lives we probably felt that we had been betrayed and then lost our trust in other people and in relationships.

The Way Through

To regain trust in our partner we must first learn to trust ourselves. Self-trust comes from emotional awareness and genuine confidence in our ability to join with another person in an open-hearted and honest way that leads to healing. We can then communicate with our partner about our worries and unmet needs in the relationship, thereby re-building trust.

If our partner has already strayed and returned, we must do our best to forgive them so that trust can once again be established. Beware of holding back trust as a form of punishment. Trust is infectious - as you learn to trust yourself, you will be able to trust your partner, they will trust themselves and so trust you.

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All advice in this website is given in good faith and no responsibility can be accepted by the website owners for issues or problems that occur as a consequence of using the website content. If you have any concerns about your psychological health you are advised to contact a doctor other suitably qualified medical/psychiatric practioner.

© P.J.Granger 2007

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