Here are three ways to build your self-esteem (or help your partner to do this):
1. It is not true for you to have low self-esteem because your natural state is one of love and connection. Something must have happened in your past (probably your childhood) to convince you that you were personally lacking in love. Try to identify what this was.
2. Let go of any negative self-beliefs such as guilt, inadequacy, or a sense of failure because these are hiding you from who you truly are. My book Lovecoach will take you through this healing process gradually.
3. Even though you might find it hard to do, start giving love and compassion to the people close to you. This will distract the negative parts of your mind and automatically re-open your heart so you can experience self-love.