Possible Issues

- You or your partner have reached a point in your lives where you are wondering what life is all about. It might not have lived up to your youthful dreams.

-You are questioning your work, relationship, and lifestyle in general.

- You may have an urge to leave your relationship or job and to escape to start a new life.

The Cause

A midlife crisis is a 'wake up call' from our deep consciousness. It is telling us that we have allowed ourselves to hide our true self behind roles, duties and responsibilities. We have created a personality and lifestyle that we thought would make us happy but it has actually minimised us and created boredom, emotional dissociation and deadness. We took on this personality because we were frightened to be ourselves, probably due to an emotional experience earlier in our lives where we felt that this personality had got us and the people around us into trouble.

When a midlife crisis hits, we try to inject excitement and risk so that we feel alive again. This does not work in the long run because we have not dealt with the reason we denied our true personality. This is why so many people in their mid-life feel frustrated - they know that there is more to their life than they are revealing.

The Way Through

If you or your partner are experiencing a midlife crisis, resist all temptations to end your relationship, leave the country or resign your job. Such a crisis can be a positive springboard to a more authentic life. Start by reconnecting with your partner, your family and your colleagues. Feel your feelings again - they will not hurt you. Express your feelings to your partner and find out how they are feeling - you will need to express the negative feelings as well as the positive. By moving back into partnership the boredom and sense of being stuck will disappear and you will be in a much more effective frame of mind to discover you true purpose in life - this may indeed involve a completely new life but without the panic, fear and disruption that often accompanies a mid-life crisis.

To better understand the onset of a mid-life crisis and discover the opportunity it represents in your life to find more purpose, meaning and happiness go to The Dead Zone and Partnership

Legal Notice - Medical Advice

All advice in this website is given in good faith and no responsibility can be accepted by the website owners for issues or problems that occur as a consequence of using the website content. If you have any concerns about your psychological health you are advised to contact a doctor other suitably qualified medical/psychiatric practioner.

© P.J.Granger 2007

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