Partnership & True Love

Stage 4 Partnership & True Love

Partnership is a relationship based on love, communication and trust. If you have ever fallen in love you will already know what partnership feels like. Imagine a long-term relationship feeling like those first heady days! This is not a dream - it can be yours if you are willing to work with your partner on the emotional issues that make you withdraw from each other.

..pitfalls

- Ironically, as your partnership gets stronger you may face periods of doubt about your relationship and about who you are. You may feel like giving up on the relationship and returning to your independence.

- As you move into partnership you will become a natural leader and have chances to help others, You might not think you are up to this, but it is the best way to continue your emotional development.

- You may find your 'new self' quite powerful and again this might frighten you. You may not feel worthy of all the happiness!

...the way through

By always choosing to move towards your partner with a feeling of love and compassion, even when they are in pain or behaving badly, allows the insecurities and fears that you both have, rise to the surface for healing. This is what we call Leadership in the Psychology of Vision model. It is making our partner's problems more important than our own and is a real act of love. You may have tomove towards you partner in this way, time and again, as many layers of pain come up from deep within their mind, but each time you will experience a new honeymoon stage.

Even if you return now and again to the power struggle or dead zone, your growing confidence in working with your partner on your issues and the wonderful sensations that come from re-discovering true intimacy will provide the incentive to keep going.

Relationships are rarely fairy tales - we must be willing to continually work at them. If we have the courage to do this, then the rewards are assured.

Remember - If you are feeling negative feelings or difficulties in your relationship always move towards your partner and join with them with feelings of forgiveness, love and compassion - do this with an open heart and it never fails.-

... the truth of a relationship?

These stages may give the impression that you must never end a relationship. While the suggestions given hear can be used to build a good relationship in difficult circumstances, it is also important to reveal the truth about a relationship. Some relationships run a natural course and end amicably. Here is a useful test - if both partners can leave a relationship and still love their partner as a friend, then that chapter of each person's life has ended naturally. If either partner feels hurt, betrayed or devastated then there is remaining potential for that relationship.

This is only a brief description of 'The Stages of a Relationship' . You will find much more information, principles and practical tips for improving your relationship in our e-book, A Model For Love

You may also find it useful to read the description of the relationship model that is built on these stages.

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