Rejection in a Relationship

Possible Issues

- When a relationship ends you feel rejected

- You have a noticed pattern of rejection in your relationships

The Cause

When a relationship ends it is not surprising that we can feel rejected - we feel somebody has judged us to be inadequate, especially if they have gone off with somebody else. We feel that we have been pushed away and abandoned.

Although feelings of rejection can be intense, it is important to realise that they are still a choice that we make about our self worth. Difficult as it is to accept, realise that all negative feelings are choices - yes terrible things can happen in life, but we can choose how we respond to them.

The problem is that feelings like rejection are virtually automatic when we harbour any low self-esteem - we blame ourself for not being good enough. Ironically it is this low self-esteem that can make us unattractive to our partners - they then leave and we feel rejected. Of course, in these situations we have rejected ourselves!

The Way Through

If you feel rejected by somebody at the end or within a relationship, realise that their behaviour says as much about them as you. They are almost certainly leaving or withdrawing because they are not finding a sense of connection and love within the relationship - they will also feel insecure and abandoned themselves to have decided to leave.

Remember that nobody can make you feeling anything that you are not already feeling - usually hidden unconsciously until a problem arises. Work to unearth these feelings of low self-esteem and to heal them.

Difficult as it is, choose not to feel rejected in your relationships - imagine how the other person is feeling and realise that all relationships are learning opportunities. Imagine yourself on a journey of discovery during which there will be ups and downs. Learning to choose how you emote is one of the most powerful techniques in self development - it is not easy, but with practice you will find yourself choosing positive emotions more regularly.

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© P.J.Granger 2007

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