Possible Issues

- You have fallen for somebody who has no interest in you, yet you cannot let them go from your mind

- You have many boy or girl friends but these never develop into romantic relationships

- You are obsessed by another person

The Cause

Unrequited love is 'love at a distance' - a fantasy that we create in our minds to give us the feelings of a relationship without any of the heartache or responsibilities.

Because we can create any fantasy we wish, they can be extremely vivid and yet we know that they are not the real thing. We have unrequited relationships because we are afraid of the real thing - afraid to express our love for somebody in an honest way. Deep down we are probably afraid of being rejected and unloved, so we make sure that this can never happen. We continue to have unrequited feelings because we have a distant hope that the dream might come true, but it rarely does.

The Way Through

If you are in or have experienced an unrequited relationship, it is best to be realistic about the situation. The chances are that you have not dared to express your feelings towards the target of your affections. It is this fear of intimacy, actually of fear of the emotion of love and its potential ups and downs such as rejection, that has caused you to maintain your feelings at a 'safe' distance.

It is time to let go of the relationship and move on in your life. Begin to find out why you are afraid to express your feelings or feel that a potential partner would find you unattractive. This fear is stopping you finding the happiness you deserve.

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All advice in this website is given in good faith and no responsibility can be accepted by the website owners for issues or problems that occur as a consequence of using the website content. If you have any concerns about your psychological health you are advised to contact a doctor other suitably qualified medical/psychiatric practioner.

© P.J.Granger 2007

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