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unrequited love
...helping you find true love and happiness through your relationships




"Let no one who loves be called unhappy. Even love unreturned has its rainbow"

James Matthew Barrie






Unrequited Love

You have fallen in love with somebody who has no interest in you.

You have many boy or girl friends, but these never develop into romantic relationships.

You are obsessed by another person, and just can't get them out of your mind.

Unrequited, or un-returned love has its origins in your subconscious mind. For some reason you are choosing to fall in love with somebody who cannot feel the same in return.

One explanation for this is that by not having the love returned you will never get into a relationship with the focus of your love. If this is the case, you are protecting yourself from the emotional challenges that always appear in an intimate relationship. In other words, consciously you want a relationship, but subconsciously you don't.

In cases of unrequited love, the needy behaviours that come with it are unattractive and drive away the focus of the love. This can lead to ever more desperate attempts to win the love of the other person.


Here are three things you can do to move on from a situation of unrequited love:

1. The fact that you have an unrequited relationship shows that you have a huge heart and plenty of love to share with the right person. Are you afraid of just how much you could love and the emotional roller-coaster that this could involve? If you are, you will need to heal this fear.

1. Recognise that the love you feel for the person you want to be with is a reflection of the love that is within your heart. The problem is that you have stopped feeling this for yourself. If you can start embracing self-love, you will become less needy, and this will make you more attractive.

3. Realise that no matter how much you love somebody and long to be with them, they might not be your true love. You need to let them go so you can find the person you are meant to be with.


Need More Help?....

My book Bringing Back The Love will help you understand why the love you have for somebody is not being returned to you. It will also help you build your self-esteem so you can bring a loving partner into your life and havve the relationship you deserve
















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