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“There can be no transforming of darkness into light and of apathy into movement without emotion.”
Carl Jung
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Emotional Withdrawal |
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Your partner withdraws from you when things become difficult in the relationship. They move away and stop communicating with you.
When your partner withdraws, you feel a sense of rejection and hurt. It feels like the relationship is at risk. You are tempted to withdraw from your partner when you are upset, for your own emotional protection and perhaps to make them realise that you are displeased with them. |
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Your partner will withdraw from you, or you will withdraw from them when there is a fear of feeling into something particularly painful. Negative emotions such as feelings of failure, inadequacy and guilt sit deeply in your subconscious mind and these can be triggered when you have a challenging situation, or you become very intimate, or honest with each other.
Emotional withdrawal will usually involve a physical withdrawal and negative body language and will hurt the other partner because it feels as if they are no longer loved. Emotional withdrawal is a common characteristic of abusive relationships. |
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Here are three things you can do to increase the amount of emotional connection with your partner: 1. The the first thing to appreciate is that your partner's withdrawal is not meant as an attack on you. They are afraid to feel into an important negative emotion and they have withdrawn to protect themselves from pain. 2. Do not judge or try to control your partner. It is love that will take away their fear. Therefore offer them compassion and make it clear you want to understand why they are moving away and are unwilling to engage emotionally with you. 3. Be willing to open your heart and feel into your own emotions, both positive or negative. In this way you will lead your partner in the healing and encourage them to be more emotionally expressive. If you have any problem in your relationship always be willing to move towards your partner in the spirit of love - this will always help matters. |
Finding compassion for your partner when they have withdrawn from you can be very difficult, especially if they are behaving in a negative or hurtful way. I discuss this problem in my book Lovecoach and give you plenty of practical ways to forgive them and bring the love back to your relationship.
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